Newborns Around Loved Ones? —
How do you feel about having your newborn around loved ones within the first few weeks of life?
I had my immediate family around for about the first two weeks. My dad and brother were in and out of town for school and work. My mom was able to stay the first two weeks. They were a huge help!
For some, there is concern about exposing their newborn to others too soon. Newborns’ immune systems aren’t fully developed yet, so they are more susceptible to infections.
I’ve also heard that some people just want their privacy to bond with their little one. It’s just that simple!
Why Having Family Around Worked For Me
When I was in my third trimester, I’d decided to have my family visit. They would have to travel into Atlanta from Florida, so we planned accordingly.
Someone like myself appreciated having my mom around for my first baby. My mom cooked breakfast every morning. She made meals that I could freeze and thaw out for the first few months. She made emergency Amazon orders. She made life easier for me!
There was also the aspect of seeing my family enjoy their first grandchild/niece. It was a special moment I could gift to them, and I’m happy I did.
It’s about mom and baby!
Still Deciding… No One Way Is The Right Way
Everyone’s circumstances are very different, and you have to find what works best for you. Whether you’re having your first baby or third, it’s your choice. Let no one make you feel crazy about your decision.
As moms, we are always receiving unsolicited advice. A lot of times it’s harmless, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t always get to us.
If your decision is to remain isolated for some time, decide on it and do it with confidence. This is your time to be selfish. You sacrifice so much in pregnancy… you’ve earned the right to be selfish. Remember, it’s family/friends who’d be the inconsiderate ones to not understand.
Maybe you decide that you’d probably appreciate the extra support. Don’t let outsiders make you feel guilty about having your new baby around people. It’s deeper than showing off your newborn. It’s about your mental health, it’s about stability, it’s you adding value to your journey of motherhood the way you need it.
Pro and Cons
With either decision, there are pros and cons. These will look different for all of us depending on lifestyle and personal relationships. Consider who you’d want around and why? What effect this may or may not have on you and baby.
This is a special time you don’t get back later.
It’s a very sacred and intimate time bringing your baby home for the first time. Making a list of your pros and cons will help you weigh out your options and make the best informed decision possible.